Dealing With Difficult Behaviour In Children
Every child will experience impulsive, defiant or disobedient behaviour at some point in their lives. While most of these behaviours are normal, abnormal behaviour can disrupt a child’s daily functioning and should addressed by professionals. Positive behaviours can be encourage by parents using evidence-based strategies. What is the difference between normal behaviour and abnormal behaviour?
Nearly seven percent of Australians between the ages of four and 17 years old experience disruptive behaviour. It is a significant occurrence in nature that persists over time, and it tends to mismatch their developmental stage. If the behaviour is affecting the child’s school functioning or with friends and family, and causing the child distress, these are signs it is more serious. These signs indicate that the behaviour needs to be investigate further and should address by a professional as soon as possible.
Given the wide range of behaviour consider normal at this age, there is some disagreement over whether or not preschool-age children should be diagnose. Most disorders are diagnose in school-aged children between 10-14 years.
Parents Need To Know
It can be difficult to know where to begin when you are seeking help for persistent and severe disruptive behaviour. Avoid Dr. Avoid websites that claim to offer symptom checks, such as Google. They can lead to alarmist results. To be inform about the different behavioural disorders, you should read and research them. However, it is important to only use reliable sources. These include Beyond blue, Reach out, Headspace and Mind Matters.
Some of the resources that teacher educators can refer to are useful, like Response Ability which offers fact sheets and podcasts about various behavioural disorders. After reading the information, if you are still worry, a visit with your GP can be a good place to start. If necessary, the GP will conduct an initial assessment and refer you to another professional.
Referring to a GP is require for access to specialist such as psychiatrists or paediatricians. Although a referral is not necessary to see a psychologist it’s advisable to first visit your GP to determine if this is require. A GP may also recommend a highly recommended person.
The Dangers Of Punishment Behaviour
Meltdowns, defiance, or even being ignore are all normal. They’re most likely just acting their age. Most children are not likely to display disruptive behaviour. It is possible to stop difficult behaviour with some effective, evidence-based strategies.
Research has shown that positive strategies are more effective than punishment and coercion in dealing with difficult behaviour. While you may notice an immediate response to punishment, it only temporarily stops the behaviour. It’s possible that the behaviour will recur in the future.
Consider what happens when you pass a speed camera. What does the majority of people do? Temporally they slow down but then speed up once they pass the camera. There are unintended consequences to punishment, including the possibility of causing damage to relationships. It can cause rebellion, reduce autonomy, and decrease problem-solving abilities.
Strategies That Improve Behaviour
Positive behavioural strategies can not only reduce unwanted behaviours but also promote positive social behaviour and strengthen relationships. Depending on the preferences of the child, some strategies are more effective than others. You can try several strategies. If one strategy doesn’t work for you, move on to the next. You can try another strategy. These strategies are effective
When your child behaves appropriately, show affection and warmth. When praising them, tell them what you like about their behaviour. Example: I like it when you listen attentively, we can do so much more and get to the good stuff faster. Instead of waiting to reward and praise the desired behaviour, do it immediately.
Think about what your child values as a reward to motivate them to do well. What would they choose? A toy, a treat, or a movie? Consider a reward system for challenging behaviour. You can reward your child often throughout the day, catching them doing good things and gradually decreasing how often.
Ownership And Helps
Offering choices gives them ownership and helps them to evaluate the consequences of their decisions. Know when to ignore and when to intervene. It is unrealistic to correct every difficult behaviour, so don’t be afraid to ignore the little things. You can overlook the occasional whining, mess or slow response to requests.
Give clear instructions and establish behaviour expectations. For example, use a talking head at all times or keep your hands and feet off of yourself. Your child’s commitment to following the rules will be increased if you negotiate their expectations. Negotiating rewards for following the rules and consequences if they are not followed can maximize their effectiveness.
Before you leave the house, remind your children of the rules and the rewards that come with following them Listen to your child and take the time to stop what you are doing and listen. Behaviour problems often arise when the child seeks your attention.